Drama + Music = Dissonance

30 Apr

Was praying to have a good day at work today. I was really excited about a parent who is an instrumentalist for the symphony and her child that I am teaching, until during class in one of my exercises, I discovered that she’s a musician..fantastic!

Until, after classes, she’s discussing with me what she likes and doesn’t like after each class…downer.

I’ve had teachers in my music and drama classes before. However, I’ll have to roll with the punches on this one. The parent is a difficult student. She’s trying to figure out everything that I’m doing and why. I would like for her to be on time for classes for one thing. Oops. I’m supposed to be positive. Okay. I’m thankful to have a lot of my dad’s patience (for children at least). Since turning 40, I can tell it’s waning a bit.

I was really excited to talk with her about Orff-Schulwerk technique … crickets…. and music friendly stuff that could be useful since she was interested in doing puppet plays for her neighborhood. Had a great conversation about the ASO Symphony Street performances that my students attended. Wrote a grant for 220 tickets so that first grade could hear the Symphony. However, it’s not working out. Don’t see a future lunch date after this session.

I’ll have to explain my reasons after class for the techniques that I use. Oops!!! Yippee!!!! I’ll have the DeKalb Honor Chorus Festival (which I love) next Saturday, so I won’t see her. Her daughter is cute though, extremely shy which shows in her body physically until she relaxes with the group.

So, the question of the day is this (by my professional musician parent).

How can a parent teach a child how to share? It’s a great question. I redirected her to other parents, since I’m not a parent myself. They would be more helpful to her, I think. I’ll do some research on it as well.

Anyone have any ideas? I was hoping to have some great conversations with this parent. Unfortunately, I’m stuck with her critiques, like the class should be just action and less talking. True, however, a child needs to comprehend my exercises with some questions so that I know the child comprehends the exercises. Her daughter is extremely shy too so the child needs to talk more within the group. It’s stuff like that…. Anyone have social skill ideas that I can use? Or that she can use? I need to survive so that I can teach a future class.


Note: Maybe she’s just being observant and helpful. Artistic people MUST have a thick skin. That’s a mandatory job description.


Posted by on April 30, 2011 in Arts Education


3 responses to “Drama + Music = Dissonance

  1. Susannah

    April 30, 2011 at 9:40 pm

    Mostly just discussion. Why it’s a good thing, in a “big idea” kind of way. In a cosmic way. In a “good for your soul” kind of way. In a “pay it forward” kind of way.
    Maybe this will help…

  2. Kim

    April 30, 2011 at 9:46 pm

    Thanks so much for your opinion Sue. Will check out your blog as well!

  3. Kim

    May 14, 2011 at 5:06 pm

    Had a great class session with the parents of the class and this particular parent. We will meet afterwards and do a barter type system in the near future, exchange for an ASO session at my school with performance tickets and me with parents and children in her neighborhood. She’s really trying hard to connect with other parents and is sincere about it. She seemed to like my work at the end of the session, and I was able to explain her questions that she had earlier. I’m very glad and relieved. Her daughter really responded well to the class sessions and both are happy (thank God). I’m very happy to end on a positive note for the parents and this particular ASO musician and her child.


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