For the most part, I don’t write about my family. However, a family member that you love will make you respond in a way that forces you to explain, write, complain, share, celebrate, etc. Today, my dad really forced me to think about how I want deal with my family in the future.
Everyone goes through issues with family. In this case, my parents are in their 70s and it’s time to help them (as best that I can without getting hurt). However, that’s with anyone.
I’m not sure how my dad got into financial trouble but he did. My parents were always great with money but my dad had a lot of financial trouble and asked me many times to help him in very large amounts of money to the point of wiping me out.
I helped him. I was baffled, surprised, confused, and didn’t know what was going on in that house that my parents have lived in for the past 25 years.
I’m not sure if he will be able to repay me the money. I’m upset with him, that’s very clear. Now, I just don’t want to see him or my mother for a while. I just need them to leave me alone. The secrets alone are enough to get on a person’s nerves. I was asked not to share that he had to “borrow” money from me to my mother.
Needless to say, I’m thinking about talking with a counselor just so that I don’t share this information with the world like I’m doing now. lol It’s private information and I may take down this post in the future. Right now, I just needed to share some things about my family. The Christian father who teaches Sunday School took a few thousand dollars and mentioned that he would throw me a hundred to help me out if I needed it and “pray” for me.
For someone who helped so many people, I’m afraid that helping his daughter was hurting her financially. I’m not sure where this is going. I believe in prayer although I can cuss like a sailor if provoked. I’ve learned to be a strong girl (like most black women) through my mother. Mom will need two hip replacement surgeries as well. I see a lot of family issues on the horizon. I’m not sure if it will get any better.
If you believe in prayer, please pray for me. Thanks.